Photo by K. Farwell
It is 2:10 PM in the afternoon with a heat index of 108. At approximately 2:00 PM I heard a sound I have never heard in this neighborhood before. It bothered me, and it bothered my dogs. It sounded like the “Hound of Baskerville” baying —you know, the one in that old Sherlock Holmes black and white movie. I opened the blinds to try to locate the source of the racket; no dog could be seen. Then I looked at my watch. My best friend’s funeral had just started at 2:00 PM. The noise stopped, but I feel like howling and baying too. Because of my health, my age, the heat, and the long distance involved, I decided not to drive to my friend’s funeral. I am there in spirit as I type. In a way, I am relieved not to be attending because it will make it easier to remember my friend alive, vibrant, and full of spiritual energy.
I do not think the howling, baying dog was a coincidence. My friend spent many years working with rescue dogs and in shelters. I am sure her pets which were put in a no-kill shelter miss her as much as I do, if not more. She was the “go to person” in my life whenever I had a medical question or a dog question…..and she was the one I could and did talk to about any and everything at least several times a week. For instance, last night I made a memorial donation to Wounded Warriors in her honor (she was a Navy nurse), and the form I was filling out asked for a family member’s address. I was stuck—–my friend was always the one I called for information about addresses and birthdays.
I was involved in a long theological discussion at a bible study group last Sunday, We discussed the meaning of resurrection, the importance of one’s body, and the role one’s spirit plays at and after the time of death, etc. I shared I did not believe one’s soul, spirit, or body can be divided into separate entities—-that we are holistic beings created by God in this life and will still be following our death. I probably didn’t say it quite that clearly, but I think my friends in the discussion understood what I was trying to say. My friend is still my friend whether she is in this world or the next, this universe or a parallel universe, or is in the exact shape she had on this earth or one a bit different once her transition is finished. The difference is, however, I cannot see her, have a conversation with her (at least one in which she answers me), touch her, or enjoy her company as I once did. That hasn’t stopped me from talking to her a lot, and at times I can almost hear/feel her answer.
I am writing this for myself as well as to and for my friend. Maybe I just want to get my mind off the funeral, but I think what I really want this writing to accomplish is to make some sort of order out of my jumbled thoughts and bruised emotions…..to let my friend know somehow how much I still love her and always will. Today’s photo is a reminder of how much she loved Noah’s Ark and rainbows and God’s promises. As always, I will close with God bless and keep you…..and with a big thank you to God for keeping and blessing me at this time when I feel like I need it most.
Living One Day at a Time 
Thanks for this. My friend Mrs. Pickel remains my friend even after her death 25 years ago. You don’t unfriend a friend just because they die.
I am so sorry that you have lost your friend. That hurts. I too believe in “the resurrection of the body”. We are whole and we will be whole.
Beautiful expression of your love for your friend. Praying comfort for you Kathy.
I am sorry that you have lost your dear friend. Even though I believe all believers in Jesus as Lord and Savior are in heaven when they die, we all have that feeling of loss, which softens with time. I remember. Peace and love and prayers, from me, your friend.